This is especially true if we don’t have adequate executive functioning skills and if those skills are even further diminished by Adhd. When I work with people who struggle with things like planning, organization, focus, attention, or self-monitoring, they will often say they know what they want to do, but just can't seem to move the needle. Or sometimes they manage to make a few small dents in a ton of different things but rarely get to the finish line.
How I Can Help
When I first started my coaching journey, one of my clients said something that really struck me: “At the end of the day I just want to know that I did what I said I would do.”
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It sounds so simple, doesn’t it? But sometimes it feels impossible.
So, then what?
That's where I come in.
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While I am an avid believer in developing big goals and long-term plans, my method tends to focus more on the day to day journey that will get you there. Before you can run a marathon, you need to be able to run a mile. Sure, it is an old metaphor but it's still a good one. So often the image of a "finish line" feels so intangible and massive, that the overwhelm knocks us off our path. Not only that, but life is rarely about one just one ambition....we may have personal marathons, professional marathons, and even family marathons. It. Is. A. Lot. The fact is, with a few exceptions, Adhd brains are often sprinters, not marathoners. We are full of fantastic ideas and intentions and want things to happen NOW. But when we can't figure out how to make it work, a few things can happen:​
1. We fizzle out, jump into something else or simply drift around with the wind
2. Full-on shut down
3. Beat ourselves up
4. Fly by the seat of our pants
5. All of the above
You're not broken. It's just how your brilliantly complex brain is wired, and you can learn to work with it in your unique way. You just have to decide that you want to.​
So, what's the process?
The Attentive Way is about learning to be more deliberate in your life. Together, we determine how incremental adjustments in your daily thoughts and actions can change how you feel about your day. The ultimate goal is that you end the day with a sense that you spent your time the way that you intended to, and in a way that aligns with your unique values and goals.​
“At the end of the day I just want to know that I did what I said I would do.”
My job:
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To help you uncover your patterns, habits and challenges, with empathy, compassion and zero-judgment.
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To educate you about EF/Adhd and how it may be impacting your life
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To partner with you in identifying the choices, resources and necessary supports that will help create forward progress.​
Your job:
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To be open to new ideas and ways of doing things.
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To take an active role in the coaching process, including some weekly practice areas.
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To treat coaching as a commitment to yourself and your future.
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To give yourself grace. Nobody is perfect.​